I sometimes feel like my life has created a monster. I have a lot of love to give. I hate hurting people though in the process I sometimes hurt myself. I grew up with parents who firmly believed spare the rod and spoil the child. While I am not against spanking I find it difficult for me to do. I prefer other methods of discipline simply because I lived a life full of anger and constant arguing and bickering. I want no part of that life anymore or any memory of it. There is difference between a spanking and beating. I was beat daily. How can I inflict that on a child? I won't.
Do you find as a parent it's difficult to displine effectively? My children are as old as 17 and as young as 6. My Gabbi is my life and my miracle. I fought for her very existence. She by all rights shouldn't be here. They told me to abort her. So as she yells no and tells me she doesn't wanna do that or tells others "you're not my boss!" I wonder how to effectively discipline or change that behavior. It's so frustrating. There has been enough hitting and abuse in my own life to last a lifetime. I don't need to be reminded of any of it. So while I do not oppose spanking I tend to only spank in the most extreme situation. Do I care too much? Love too much? Am I hurting her? Maybe. I have my own issues with the teenagers. I will save that for another day! What are some of your best parenting tips?
Since my 4 yr old no longer sits in time out when I tell her to I've gone to the "bear hug of love" to restrain her in my arms for the duration of time out. It's not real fun for either of us, but I guess that's the point. The few times I've spanked, it's been out of rage, not because what she did was so terrible, so I'm trying hard to avoid spanking. Discipline isn't easy!!
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